The New Paradigm of “The Ask”

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Mention fundraising and the most likely initial response will be something like, “Oh, I don’t like to ask for money.”  The act of  “The Ask”,  asking another for a charitable investment, is often seen as the sum total of “fundraising.”

 

Those of us who have done it successfully, those who have been there, know this isn’t true.  We know it’s not magic.  It’s a matter of attitude.  We know it to be one of the most rewarding things you can ever do.

 

It’s not hard.  With the right understanding, you can experience it too. When the time is right for “The Ask”, soliciting a charitable gift can—and should be—one of the most rewarding things you’ll ever do.

 

Approached correctly, it’s The Triple Win.  Getting the “yes” is your win.  Satisfying the dreams and values of the charitable investor is their win.  Changed lives is the third.  I can’t think of anything more productive and positive.

 

So, how do you “do it”?

 

The most important thing to remember is that being successful in fundraising is much more about how you think that what you do.  The right mindset and broad understanding is the essential prerequisite to success.

 

Many of us think of soliciting as some sort of adversarial transaction.  We think we have to perform some sort of dodge or feint or perhaps provide a quid pro quo.  Hence the perennial popularity of the charity auction.

 

What’s often seen as an adversarial encounter fraught with anxiety and pitfalls, can actually be a relational love-fest.  Yes, it can.

 

When we don’t see the solicitation as an adversarial confrontation, what we often settle for is the bloodless, programmed negotiation for our “programs.”  I can think of little else that will automatically generate a full-throated yawn.

 

What donors are looking for—what they’re seeking—is nothing less than personal self-fulfillment.  Any charitable organization, which provides this (and it isn’t all that hard) is already to third base.

 

What donors expect, is another matter.  After years of arms-length encounters with overzealous, tactless solicitors, donors expect the bait and switch.  The mouse trap baited with cheese.

 

Many, many, donors would prefer a trip to the dentist rather than be approached for a charitable investment.

 

Why?  Because we’re focused on the transaction even as donors are seeking a relationship.

 

So, how do we break this mad circle?

 

What is it we’re doing wrong?

 

First, we make it about money.  Yes, money is involved but the act of soliciting and receiving a charitable investment is definitely not about the money.  In its purest sense securing a gift is a partnership between giver and receiver to create a lasting intangible benefit for each.

 

Second, we often make the ask personal.  We’re scared sh–less that we’ll hear the dreaded “n” word.  If the answer is “no” it often doesn’t mean “no way” and it definitely isn’t personal to you.  So, don’t make it so.

 

Donors are people too.  Individuals have their own challenges and distractions.  A “no” is often “not now”, “not in this way”, or “not for this particular purpose”.  The mindful solicitor knows how to meet these concerns for the benefit of all.

 

Third, we see donors as the “other.”  We depersonalize them by placing them into a category of other beings that can’t possibly share our passion in the way we do.  After all, we’ve got the “pure” mission.  Really?

 

Fourth, we have nutty ideas about money and how it functions.  Many an ineffective solicitor is hamstrung by a dysfunctional view money with a morass of mixed feelings about the “morality” of money.

 

Perhaps the real killer in a solicitation is when we’re a getter before we’re a giver.  Every solicitor must have made their own thoughtful gift before seeking one from another if they’re to be taken seriously.  If their sincerity is to be believable.

 

Understand this truth:  Donors are the Drivers.  This is so important and fundamental it’s Principle 1 of The Eight Principles.  Simply stated, it says that donors drive philanthropy with their visions and values.  They are the fuel and force behind philanthropy.

 

This is counterintuitive to many nonprofit leaders who think it’s the urgency of their cause and the strength of their programming, which is the engine of philanthropy.  Nothing could be further from the truth.  If you’re in this camp, it’s time to leave.

 

OK, so you’ve properly prepared.  The moment has arrived and the table is set.  Just how do you “do it?”

 

The first step is to engage your potential investor.  What does this mean?  Some of you will know the term “stewardship”.  It’s the time-tested fundraising term for bringing the donor to a point of awareness and understanding how a gift from them will benefit them.

 

When the potential donor is ready to asked—and you’ll know when—simply ask.  “Will you consider an investment of “$____” for “_____.”    Keep it simple, sweet and direct.

 

Don’t hedge, equivocate or be oblique with an “apologetic” approach.  Don’t say “I would like to ask you. . .” or “I was hoping to ask. . .”  Both these really don’t ask, they merely express your anxiety.

 

Make direct eye contact.  Remember, you’re giving the potential donor an opportunity, not extracting resources.

 

Once the simple request is on the table stop talking.  Don’t say a thing.  You may think the silence is deafening and interminable.  But it’s not.  You’ve made the request, so allow the potential donor to process it and respond.

 

When the potential investor does respond, listen very carefully to the response.  Often, charitable investors respond by asking a question.  If they do, answer the question and say nothing else.  The request is out there.  Trying to “sell” it at this stage is definitely counterproductive.

 

I’ve seen many well-meaning solicitors convince a donor only to continue talking and dissuade them at the same meeting.  We know why we keep talking.  It’s our anxiety.  And that comes from the attitudes I’ve already mentioned.

 

Solicitation is an act of service.  And as much as might you like to think so, the donor’s response is much, much more about them and their goals than your worthy cause.  Never forget, you’re serving he needs and desires of the donor.

 

The conventional solicitation paradigm looks like this:

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Nonprofits seek money from donors to finance their programs so they can executive those programs.  This is a transaction.  The donor simply serves to facilitates another’s ideas.

 

There’s a different paradigm.  One that creates true synergy and maximum impact:

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In The Triple Win, each player:  the nonprofit organization, the philanthropist, and the community come together each for different reasons.  The nonprofit is seeking impact.  The donor is looking for personal significance and the community is seeking transformation.

 

Properly understood and executed, The Triple Win delivers real synergy.   That’s when 1+1 really equals 3.

Moving to The Triple Win isn’t hard.  It requires a totally different mindset.  It demands accepting donors as your partners.

 

Hardly anything worth doing was ever accomplished without broad support, however.

 

Success is waiting.  Go out and achieve it.

 

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About author

Larry Johnson

Larry Johnson

Founder of The Eight Principles™, Larry believes in the power of relationships to build a better place. An experienced solicitor, Larry has successfully closed gifts up to eight figures, totaling over $50M. An internationally recognized fundraising and philanthropy coach, Larry has successfully worked with nonprofit organizations and philanthropists in the United States, Canada and Great Britain. Larry Is ranked among the top-15 fundraising coaches in the United States by the Wall Street Business Network. He is the author of the best-selling, award winning book, The Eight Principles of Sustainable Fundraising. Larry is passionate to share his expertise. He recently launched the ground breaking sustainable fundraising training program, The Oracle League™. Cloud-based with step-by-step learning with CFRE CE credits, it’s the only platform of its kind on the market, The Oracle League™ is already generating rave reviews. Larry is a graduate of Yale University.